Transform Comparison into Celebration

Admiration and envy are responses that point us toward what we value most. And when we become aware of what we value, we are much better positioned to create a life that’s richly satisfying.

If you notice yourself admiring people who take creative risks, bring your full attention to the part of you that wants to dare more greatly. If you catch yourself envying the folks in your circles who are at ease with self-promotion, take some time to reflect on how you might share your triumphs in a way that feels totally YOU. Heck, if you’re obsessing over tennis players’ forearms, it could be a sign that you’re ready to revamp your fitness regime. You get the idea.

Use the Success of Others as a Mirror

Comparison can be a dark, stuck place, but only if you let it be. There’s gold to be found in your comparison habit, if you’re willing to look for it. The light we see in others can help us see our own—and appreciate it.

So the next time you catch yourself admiring or envying someone’s success, gifts, or particular brand of radiance—be it in a professional context, a personal one, or simply perusing magazine covers—take a moment to consider:

? What qualities in them inspire me?

? Where do I currently embody these qualities?

? How might my expression of these qualities differ from theirs?

? What can I learn from my desire to embody these qualities more fully?

Your Twitter feed may never look quite the same.

Vocabulary

1.每天早上我做的第一件事情就是上推特，只為了去看上面列出的所有我落下的東西。fall behind: 落后，跟不上。
2.release: 發(fā)布。
3.collaborative: 合作的，協(xié)作的。
4.buddy: 伙伴；trailer: 預(yù)告片；phenomenal: 非凡的；polished: 優(yōu)美的；charismatic: 超凡魅力的；bleary-eyed: 睡眼惺忪的；telegenic: 適于上鏡的。
5.keep score: 保留得分，和競(jìng)爭(zhēng)者同步發(fā)展。
6.media stream: 媒體流。
7.fulfill: 實(shí)現(xiàn)，完成。
8.measure up: 合格，符合標(biāo)準(zhǔn)。
9.internal mechanism: 內(nèi)部機(jī)制。
10.ego: 自我；yearning: 渴望，向往。
11.在過(guò)去的一年里，我和領(lǐng)導(dǎo)力課程導(dǎo)師塔尼婭?蓋斯勒共同研究“攀比”是如何進(jìn)行的，它讓我們付出何等代價(jià)，又教會(huì)我們什么——我們發(fā)現(xiàn)它幾乎存在于我們所認(rèn)識(shí)的每個(gè)富有創(chuàng)造力、有增長(zhǎng)潛力的人身上。run rampant: 猖狂，泛濫成災(zāi)；growth-oriented: 有增長(zhǎng)潛力的。
12.在我們這種攀比成風(fēng)的文化中，我們很難做到不去留意周?chē)渌硕荚诙虝r(shí)間內(nèi)做些什么，然后陷入一種思考“我過(guò)得怎樣”的模式中。comparison-soaked: 攀比成風(fēng)的；on earth: 究竟，到底；slip into: 陷入；〈美口〉stack up: （生活）過(guò)得，進(jìn)展。
13.mentor: 導(dǎo)師。
14.take aback: 使大吃一驚。
15.unearned: 不勞而獲的；dumb luck: 不費(fèi)多少心思和力氣得來(lái)的好運(yùn)。
16.behind the scenes: 在幕后，秘密地。
17.fall prey to: 深受……之害；over-simplification: 過(guò)度簡(jiǎn)單化。
18.celebration: 頌揚(yáng)。
19.羨慕和嫉妒可以讓我們了解自己最重視的是什么。
20.obsess: 使……困擾；revamp: 改進(jìn)，翻新；fitness regime: 健身計(jì)劃。
21.下次當(dāng)你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己在羨慕或者嫉妒別人的成功、天賦或者特有的魅力時(shí)——無(wú)論在工作場(chǎng)所、私人場(chǎng)合，還是在看雜志封面時(shí)——花點(diǎn)時(shí)間去考慮以下幾點(diǎn)。radiance: 光輝；context: 環(huán)境；peruse: 細(xì)讀。
22. embody: 包含，體現(xiàn)。

（來(lái)源：英語(yǔ)學(xué)習(xí)雜志 編輯：許晶晶）