Do you always go for the wrong men, but have the most perfect pet? Then this relationship advice may be for you.

你是否總是會(huì)遇上錯(cuò)的人，卻擁有一只最適合你的寵物？那么不妨看看以下這條戀愛(ài)建議。

A leading love expert has suggested there are parallels between picking the perfect partner and the way you choose your dog.

 一位著名的愛(ài)情專家認(rèn)為，人們?cè)谶x擇最佳伴侶時(shí)有點(diǎn)類(lèi)似于選擇寵物狗。

Author and relationship coach Dr Annie Kaszina Ph.D - who is the first to admit she has her own chequered relationship history - discovered that by applying these principles she could finally make the right choices.

安妮博士是作家兼人際關(guān)系教練。作為第一個(gè)勇于承認(rèn)自己復(fù)雜戀愛(ài)史的人，她發(fā)現(xiàn)采用一些法則會(huì)使她做出正確的選擇。

When Annie met Orlandino it was love at first sight: the big brown eyes, the irresistible looks, the knack he had of making her laugh.

當(dāng)安妮第一眼看到歐蘭迪諾（Orlandino）時(shí)，便覺(jué)得他十分可愛(ài)。歐蘭迪諾擁有一雙棕色的大眼睛及令人無(wú)法抗拒的外表。他的一些小花招逗得安妮開(kāi)懷大笑。

But sadly, he wasn't a keeper. Beneath that charming exterior lay some unsavoury habits and a difficult and a very demanding personality.

但令人傷心的是，他并不是那個(gè)值得安妮珍惜的人。他迷人的外表之下掩藏的是令人討厭的習(xí)慣和執(zhí)拗苛刻的個(gè)性。

Orlandino was the dog from hell.

歐蘭迪諾就是一只地獄冥犬。

What Annie learned from that encounter set her on the path to becoming a women's relationship coach.

安妮在這段感情中領(lǐng)悟到的事情使她成為了一名女性人際關(guān)系教練。

She learned her lesson, chose her second dog - and her current lovely partner - with a lot more care, and has since taught hundreds of women simple ways to spot the right man for them, using her pet as the template.

她吸取經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)，精心挑選了她的第二只狗，也是目前陪伴她的可愛(ài)伴侶。安妮用自己的狗作為例子，教導(dǎo)上百位女性如何用最簡(jiǎn)單的方式選擇屬于她們的真命天子。

Now Annie shares ten of her tips with Femail readers, inspired by her new book, entitled Do You Choose Your Dog More Carefully Than Your Husband?, which comes out on Valentine's Day.

日前，安妮同F(xiàn)email的讀者分享了十條小貼士。這十條貼士源于她即將在情人節(jié)出版的新書(shū)——《你是否選擇狗狗比選擇丈夫更仔細(xì)》。

1. Temperament is king

   性格才是王道

Mean, moody, and magnificent may sound exciting… So, too, may the idea of taking on a challenge, or 'taming' someone 'wild'.

吝嗇卑鄙、喜怒無(wú)常、高貴華麗也許聽(tīng)起來(lái)令人興奮無(wú)比，但也有可能意味著面臨挑戰(zhàn)，或是馴服某個(gè)野蠻粗魯?shù)娜恕?/p>

Unfortunately, they lead to hard work relationships; and hard work relationships lead to emotional exhaustion and breakdown.

但不幸的是，脾氣不好的人會(huì)導(dǎo)致感情變得難以維系，而難以維系的感情又會(huì)導(dǎo)致情感耗竭和感情破裂。

Better to look for someone sunny and sweet-natured.

最好是找個(gè)個(gè)性陽(yáng)光、脾氣好的人。

Think about the way a date projects himself on first meeting and beyond. Why would pessimism or negativity be an aphrodisiac?

仔細(xì)想想你的約會(huì)對(duì)象在第一次約會(huì)和之后的約會(huì)中是怎樣表現(xiàn)自己的。為什么悲觀消極的情緒會(huì)成為一種催情劑？

2. Check the pedigree

   了解背景

Obviously, this is simpler with dogs than it is with people, and can't be settled on a first date. But then Rome wasn't built in a day, and nor should relationships be.

顯然，了解狗狗的血統(tǒng)明顯要比了解一個(gè)人的背景要容易得多，而且這不可能在第一次約會(huì)時(shí)就了解透徹。羅馬不是一天建成的，戀愛(ài)關(guān)系也是如此。

You can listen to the way they talk about parents, family members, and friends.

你可以從他們對(duì)父母、家庭成員以及朋友的描述中獲取一些相關(guān)信息。

If they come across as Billy-no-mates, there is cause for concern.

如果他們給你的印象是朋友寥寥無(wú)幾，那你就得小心了。

3. Beware yappiness

  注意言談

Unless you're okay with saddling yourself with Mr I'm Great, Mr Alpha Male, Mr In Love With The Sound of His Own Voice, or Mr Life and Soul of the Party, be careful of over-talkers.

小心那些喋喋不休的人，除非你能忍受同自戀者、大男子主義者、喜歡自己聲音的人或是派對(duì)上的活躍分子相處。

Incessant talking on a first date may be a sign of nerves, but also a lack of interest in the other person and a lack of social skills.

第一次約會(huì)時(shí)的喋喋不休可能是緊張的表現(xiàn)，也可能是因?yàn)樗麑?duì)他人沒(méi)興趣或缺乏社交技巧。

They need to take an interest in you too (This holds just as true for Strong, Silent Types).

約會(huì)對(duì)象也需要表現(xiàn)出對(duì)你感興趣的樣子（這一點(diǎn)適用于安靜的壯漢）。

Asking non-intrusive questions is not rocket science.

問(wèn)一些不侵犯他人隱私的問(wèn)題并不是一件復(fù)雜的事。